if i can't forgive, i resent. and that's a bad place for me. it creates feelings of anger. and then it's all downhill. i internalize. next thing you know i'm sick, physically, mentallly, spiritually.

but i learned a long time ago forgiveness doesn't mean to forget. otherwise i would never learn the lessons winging there way to me. i would never learn boundaries.

there are times i feel resistive about forgiveness, but i would want the same compassion from others. and there have been many times i have been forgiven. those that haven't forgiven me are so resentful and full of bitterness, i can't stand being around their aura. but i forgive them. it's the best life skills lesson i can give my daughter.
thanks for a thoughtful topic.
i hope that made sense.